Hi! Another K’s big idea thing.
Well you see, I saw many comments asking about personal things and wanting an answer so I thought: ‘Hey! Why don’t we have a page where it is all about answering life’s questions!’ You know, like the “Ask X” things on the newspapers. Please put all long comments here. Thank you!
Hope you like the idea!
K
Dear LOVELY,
This is an extremely different problem. But I shall try to help as best as I can.
First of all, think about whether you can be friends even with the one you don’t like. If you can, then you must embrace all of them together: your friend and the other girl you don’t like. If you really can’t stand the other girl, try inviting the friend you like over, just the two of you, so she can understand how close you were. It’ll also get you two closer together again. But if you can’t become friends with the other girl, focus on some of your other friends. You’ll probably find someone with similar likes as you and become BFs.
Hope this helps!
K
There is this girl at my school. When she was new, I helped her out and she was nice, friendly, and she seemed like she could be my friend. But now she became extremely close to this other girl, whom I do not like, and even though she still sits with us, she makes is very obvious that she wants to sit with her other, closer friend. She’s getting extremely annoying, clinging onto that girl all the time. I want to just tell her to GO AWAY, and sit with your oh-such-close other friend. I’m not even sure if I’m one of her friends sometimes: she is an… interactive person and tends to talk with everyone, with means sometimes forgetting that the girls she sits at with lunch are there- and it’s frustrating. In a way, I want to tell her to go stick with the other people she is close with. I refrain myself from her these days. I act more polite, like I’m talking to a stranger- to her. But should I? How should I?
That’s also great advice!
K
Dear E.Z. P.C.,
What a difficult situation! I’ll try to help as best as I can.
Maybe your friends didn’t know how seriously you think of your relationship with him. It might be a good idea to talk to them about how you feel about him. If they’re good friends, they’ll understand and treat you guys as an ‘official’ couple. It might’ve been a big misunderstanding and not the boy’s fault at all.
Hope this helps!
K
Dear Jellybeanny,
I have to approve a comment before it comes up on the discussion board.
) so please wait a bit.
It might take a while to approve (as I am a bit busy these days
Thanks!
K
hey k i dont think ur site is working so good cos there was this other comment and i replied to it but like now its gone :S
2ezpz: you cant take it out on in him everytime one of his friends that just so happens to be a girl comes within a one metre radius of him! gosh. i get where ur comin from and all but u dont need to be so worried about him – if he really is that great and your relationship is as secure as you say, then wouldnt u trust him?
)
JELLAAY BEEEEANIE
hey k
wel its gonna b feb after jan, and we know what that means – valentines day.
right now my boyfrend and i are going thru a bit of a ruff patch. hes always talking to other gurls. my friends all hate him and tell me that hes a player and such, but hes not hes really nice and secure, very clever and kind etc. i think theyre just jealous that im in a relationship and theyre not. anyway, hes always talking to other girls and giving them hugs and stuff and i dont like it. he went to the movies with some mates and one of them was my friend and i swear she flirts with him all the time. what to do?!?!?!?
ezpz
Dear D,
Yep, I understand your situation. Actually, I’ve been there quite recently and it worked out very well. I’ll try to give you my advice:
Try and ask her to hang out sometime and see how she responds. If she’s up for it, good! She’s eager and willing to be your friend and, most importantly, likes you. If she’s not really interested, it might mean that she’s changed. Now, remember, I said might because she may just not find that event to her liking. However, if that is the case, try and find her interests and hobbies. It would be good if you have things in common. Then, you can do it together! Also, keep trying to meet with her and keep her interested: you have to give an effort!
Hope this helps!
K
Hi,
i am worried that my friend doesnt like me anymore
what can i do to know for sure?
she never stays with me that much any more and shes never my partner!
what shall i do?
Hi, Diana!
Your welcome. I do hope my advice helped. Sorry that it didn’t work out, though.
Thanks. I’m glad you like my post!
It’s just a few things I think you’d need to take to school.
Oh! Yes! I do hate it when that locker thing happens! And there’s barely enough time to get to class, to boot.
Hope my new advice worked!
K
Yo K!
don’t worry, it isn’t ur fault that it didn’t work out….. some things are just not worth carrying on with right? it is just a pity that my other friend has taken her side cause she was really great….. i think what u said will work!!! u r sssssoooooooooooooo great at this!!!!! u must have LOADS of friends! i would definatley want to be one of them if i went to ur school!!!! and that thing on back to school…. totally awesome!!!!! don’t u hate it when u have a locker in the middle of the row and everyone is pushing and shoving so u cant get everything ur bag!!!! and the person underneath is waiting and trying to get stuff through ur legs!!!!! TOTAL NIGHTMARE!!!!
Dear Diana,
I’m very sorry your situation has gotten worse. I will try to help you as best as I can.
First of all, you now know that this friendship is not worth keeping. She was mean and doesn’t deserve your friendship. However, there are many different people out there who can definitely be your friend. Here’s a few tips on how to get closer to them:
Find someone who you sit next to in class or someone who seems nice. Try sitting next to them during lunch and talk to them. Actually, that’s the most important thing: talking. It’s like the only way to get to know somebody. If you find some common interests, invite them to your house to hang out. Don’t wait for her to make the first move. Be outgoing! I’m sure you’ll have good friends soon.
Hope this helps!
K
Hi K!!!!
Thanks for the great advise!!!! i tried it out and told her that i didn’t like the way she talked to me and about me. She seemed really sorry and things have gotten loads better!! But then yesterday she was saying some things about the way i dress and i told her that she was saying things i don’t like again and she got really mad! she said i was oversensitive. then today when i got to school she and two of he other friends were giving me ‘evil looks’ and making snide comment at me during lunch. i also now have no-one to sit with cause our class is divided into strong social groups which don’t mix much. what should i do!!!!! i need help!!!!!
Dianna
Dear Diana,
Thanks for coming to my blog! I hope you like it! Now for your problem, I’ll try to help as best as I can.
First of all, I believe friendship should be supportive, kind, and considerate. If your friendship is not like this, you should think about whether such a friendship is worth keeping. If you believe your friend is a kind and caring person – especially to you – tell her, in a gentle but clear way, that you don’t like her when she says insensitive things to you and you want her to stop. Don’t beat around the bush or speak in a begging tone. If you do, she will think you are not serious.
If she is your best friend, I’m sure she’ll apologize and stop her mean behavior. If she keeps doing that and you are much bothered and irritated, that friendship is not worth keeping. Stop being friends and tell your mom that you don’t want to meet up or do anything with her.
Hope this helps!
K
Hi K
I am new to your blog and was wondering if u could help me with a problem i have! My best friend is saying a few things about me to my face that i don’t like. She is really nice most of the time and we have known each other for ages and our mums are really good friends. I’m not sure if i should stop being friends with her, tell the teachers, tell my mum or tell her i don’t like the way she is talking to me and ask her to stop. I really need help soon!!!!
Thanks!
Diana
Dear Alice,
I understand your situation. It must be very hard right now for you but I will try to help as best as I can.
First, let me ask you this: do you still want to be friends with her? And when you sit next to her at lunchtime, does she talk to you? If both questions are answered in the positive, then I think you should still try to be friends. Here’s how:
Let her know that you’re very interested in her hobbies, likes and dislikes, new friends etc by talking and asking. Show her that you want to know all about her. That way, you really will know more about her and you can get conversation going (people like to talk about themselves). Remember, people change: what might have been your shared favorite song might now sound like rubbish to her. You can also get to talk about your new favorite things and, who knows, you might find a new common interest. This would be a good way to start things going again.
After that, well, it’s up to you: if you decide you still match up well, be friends. Meet during breaks, hang out after school, call each other… anything really. The most important thing is to keep in touch. If you do this, you’ll be BFF’s again in no time.
Hope this helps!
K
I have a HUGE problem,
There is a girl i used to be best friends with, she was really nice! and then all of a sudden, we mixed classes, and she changed. she was no longer nice, friendly and funny. she never talks to me, or seems to have any interest, however she sits next to me at lunch, so i am not sure if she is my friend or not….? how can i ask her?
Dear Tweeter,
This is such a big dilemma. I know how difficult this situation is. I will try my best to answer it.
I think you should tell both parties that you will treasure their friendship. After saying that, you should say that you will spend time with both of them: e.g when you have class together with your friend you spend time with her and when you have class with the pair of friends you’ve recently found you spend time with them. Don’t force them to unite into one group; you can try but if it just doesn’t work you can have two different kinds of friends. Eventually, you will have lots and lots of different friends so don’t try to play with just one. It’s good to have lots of friends with different characteristics. Try to play with both friends as much as you can.
Any other suggestions?
K
I use to have a clique of friends, but we had this BIG [as in the hugest fight ever] argument and we split. We were a group of four, and we divided into pairs. My friend then was very loyal, we hung out together, we stuck up together when the other pair tried to harass us… but then I found another pair of friends. They were in my class and it was easier to talk to them; unlike my other friend because we shared only one class at school. My friend and the pair of friends that I found recently don’t get a long well and have different interests and such. I feel like when I’m with one friend or the other pair, I feel like I’m leaving one person out. What should I do?
Dear Clumsy,
I know what you mean: sometimes, no matter how hard you want to keep things, they get lost or broken. It’s hard to get your parents on your side after it happens a couple of times but I’ll try to help.
Not picking fights and being obedient might help you win the argument but you might need to do more things than that.
First of all, I would have a nice, quiet talk with your parents. Tell them that you’re ready to be responsible and ask what you can do to prove it. If they don’t suggest anything, I have a good idea: bring out the old ‘rock baby’ thing.
The rock baby is basically a rock. If you keep it for a certain period of time – let’s say a week – and it has no scratches or such, you can get what you want. If not a rock, a clock, or something like that.
Hope this helps!
K
ok it’s not my fault I always break and lose things…well it is but i never do it intentionally and I TRY to take care of my stuff but it’s like my stuff hates me or something…? i broke my pc (v.expensive) broke and lost all my watches, lost my glasses, and lost my phone. now i really wanna fresh start. starting with getting a new phone!!! i’m SO prepared i have all the money saved up and already know which color and what type i’m gonna get and where from. but my parents don’t know and if i get the guts 2 ask 4 permission they’ll slab the ol “ur not responsible” thing on me again. i’ll really look after it! i promise! but they’ll be like “how many times have we heard that before?’
its so mucked up!!! i really want this phone!!!!!!!!!! aghhh! what do i do to show them i’m responsible? like, not pick fights with them and be all obedient?!
Welcome back!
Been on vacation?
K
Good advice!!!
Haven’t seen me for so long, eh?
Dear KC LEE,
I agree with Soph; you shouldn’t care about what other kids think. It is bad to be smart? It is bad to not be dumb like all those other girly girls? I think that it’s O.K to read and be smart. Reading is kool. Other kids don’t think of you as a nerd. Just try to ‘blend in’. Be yourself and, well, socialize.
Hope this helps.
K
hey that is sooo weird there was this comment from someone and then when i replied the comment disapeared!!!!!!!
omg omg omg!!! u actually went on my site and saw the ad that is sooooo cool.
um i mean hehe sorry i should be more supportive!
ok n e way i think that u SHOULD keep reading cuz it makes u smarter than those horrible girls and stuff and when ur older and have lotsa cash cuz u did well in tests, the guys that failed that used to tease u will be the ones who r cleaning ur shoes and washing your clothes. see? its like a vice versa kind thing…
hi saw ur ad on http://www.lifestylecats.piczo.com
ok my prob: people think of me as a nerd cos im always reading and stuff. do you think i should stop and become all girly girly so that they’ll like me? a really popular girl at my school suggested it. im not sure… plz help!!!!
Dear Daisy Lover (by the way, love the name!),
Once, I also had friend like this. She would make fun of my physical properties and when I told her that it hurt my feelings, she would say ‘Whatever’ and talk about how great she was and how lucky I was to be her friend. Still, I still felt that she was my best friend and I kept hanging around her. Here’s what I did:
I researched a bit on this case and found a book all about friendships. Inside was a test called ‘Is your friendship worth it?’. I tried the test and the answer was definitely no. After pondering for a while, I decided that I agreed with this answer and decided to do something about my relationship with my friend. I met her and told her exactly what I didn’t like about her and said that I wanted to move on. She apologized and became a better person. Nonetheless, I met other people and had more friends. However, we are now on good terms.
Hope your relationship works!
K
yo K!
ok, y am i happy?
iv got dis really serious problem. well its serious to me but mayB not
to other people.
I have this friend who always brags. its all she does. she does
it for a living and i bet she cant live without it. she says “I live in
this giant house that is like 3 stories high and my uncle useto own dis
movie theater, and i useto sell popcorn and i got to watch every movie
and I got 11 dogs and they were all so cute and Im going to japan and korea
and the phillipines and Im pretty, i know, because i spend 24/7 looking at
my face in the mirror.”
and shes rude. she goes to you and says ‘Why is your nose so flat? I
mean look at my nose, its so perfect! You should get like plastic surgery
when you grow up, IF U HAVE THE MONEY!” and then she laughs likes
a hysterical person.
What shud I do? I mean she is a quite good friend of mine, but
who likes having a weird bragger as a friend who only cares ’bout her face???
hehe
hope u can solve da mystery!!!!!! :G
-DAISY LOVERR <3 -
P.S- i really do
Dear Alex,
I know how hard it is for you too have someone stick to you like glue. First it’s tiring, then it’s stressful then it’s just plain annoying. Here’s what I think you should do:
If you don’t want to be with her all the time, tell her so. Of course you should do it nicely but tell it to her firm. Suggest going to somewhere that you would like to go and if she says no then say that you really want to go there and just go. When you don’t want to sacrifice your breaks just say that you want to play somewhere and tell her where you’ll be. Even if she goes sad just say that if she has the time she can come with you. When she tells her mom, just say that although she’s a good friend, you want some personal space. If she really wants to be your friend, she’ll understand.
Hope this helps!
K
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I also have a similar problem. There is this girl who does whatever she can to be with me, she never goes outside to play, but always volounteers to help out in class at breaks instead. I dont like her, but she TIHNKS i do. then i have to sacrifice my breaks in order to be with her to help her, because if i refuse, she goes all sad on me and pouty, then probably tell her mum.
Dear Cindy,
I totally understand what situation you’re in. I, too, once had a very possessive friend. She wouldn’t let me play with other kids and when she decided to go play with a different classmate, I found myself left out with no other friends.
Personally, I think you should tell her how you feel. Be kind but firm. Tell her that you would like to play with a larger group of friends to get to know other people. If she persists to hang around you like flies with sugar, tell her that although she’s a nice girl, you want to broaden you friendship and the next time she tries to get to you, be with the people you would like to be friends with. Give her a hint that she can be with you if she’s willing to stop sticking right next to you. Remember; you also have to be willing to try and make new friends.
As for the ‘boringness’ problem, I’m afraid that’s up to you. Try to find something you have in common.
Hope this helps!
K
There is a girl who thinks she is my friend but i dont like her, she is boring. She always hangs around ME and never broadens her friendships with others, and plus, her dad is always trying to make sure we are together….
What do i do? I want to play with others, but she can never let me….
Dear Amelia,
If you would like some reliable payment, you could ask your parents for some extra chores and ask for some cash in exchange. This way you can know what to expect and set your budget.
If you need money fast, you could always have a garage sale. Just get a couple of things you don’t really need and sell them for a reasonable price. Of course, you can only do this once so make sure you really need the money!
Hope this helps!
K
Oh, right! Great Idea, J-Lee!
K
Oh you know there is a book in our library called 101 ways to make money fast!!!!!!!!!
Hi, I’m a friend of a friend who comments on your blog and she recocmended coming to your blog if I had a problem. My problem isn’t that deep like everyone else’s – nothing to do with broken friendships or grade struggles. It’s just a little question…do you have any ideas on how to make money fast?
From AMELIA WOODBRIDGE xxx
I baked a giant brownie cake with cream topping for a party a few weeks ago. it was delish.
Mmm~ I LOVE brownies….
BB please make them for me!!!
K
Hey Double B, I just found this reallllyyyy great recipe for brownies that I made once like a long long time ago and i just found and they are DELICIOUS!!!!
Maybe I can send it to you!! If u want!!
Dear Danielle,
I agree with Sophie, you should ask what’s wrong. If she says “Nothing” in a bored voice, say “Look, I really want to be friends but if you keep acting like I’m really boring then it’s not fun for either of us. I want it to work out.” That way it’s nice but firm. Another option is that you could try talking about anything. If she’s still bored ask what she wants to do, etc. If it doesn’t work out then you say the statement.
Hope it works out!
K
I THINK U SHULD ASK WHATS WRONG>>>>>>>you know, any problemos at home.
:):)
Dear K,
I have had this friend for 2 years. Lately, she’s been really quiet. When I go to her house all we ever do now is watch the TV and play electronic games without talking. I get bored. When she comes to my house she gets bored. I asked her if we were still good friends and she said: ‘sure, okay’ in a really BORED voice.
Whats wrong with her??!!! I want our friendship to work!
From D
Really? I will try to fix whatever it is.
K
No ’cause you see on the actual website there is the name, so sometihng like Betty Baker, and then next to it it says &hellip.
So it looks like this:
Betty Baker&hellip
Umm… Hellip?
Could you say that again please?
K
How come the thing above the comment says
Whateverthenameis then hellip?
Hey Double B,
you just said
‘I’ve recently been looking at girls in school, like the Rhiannon’
The Rihannon??!!! LOL!!
What about you?
K
I obviously don’t do anything, I always wake up late in the morning (not planned!) and don’t have time for any styling! Charlie has natural highlights….they’re so nice ! I always point them out to her!
Hey did you get my idea suggestion? It isn’t here anymore! Where did it go??!!
Hi Girls!
I’ve recently been looking at girls in school, like the Rhiannon because of her ice crusted, beautiful green eyes or Charlotte because of her long, rich, silky hair that waves down her back so smoothly. We all have a special thing about ourselves. Mine is my eyes, they’re hazel but I love the dark blue rim around them and the dark green sparks at the side. So I was thinking I’d tell you a secret about my personal look on my face:
Ok, don’t tell but I wear make up in school! I’m positively true! To get my look I put on shimmery gold eye shadow just where my eyelashes rim the eyelids. I smother some shiny, hot pink lip gloss on then burn it out with a damp cloth. I then cover over lightly with an all-natural brown gloss. Finally, I smile in the mirror and where the apples of my cheeks are, I apply the Body Shop’s strawberry-smelling, sweet lotion. Finish of the hairstyle in a go-with-the-flow sporty bun and you’re minty fresh!
Double B, xxx
PS. How do YOU get YOUR look?
I mean I am always having to do my homework @ the last minute aswell!!
Hey twin!!!!
Woah! That is exactly what im having trouble with!!!
Dear Trouble With Music,
If YOU are willing to go with music, try this advice.
I don’t know much about the grade thing but maybe asking your teacher to give you a little less homework would help. Try to like piano as it is, there are sure to be some things that you like about it!
Also, I came across a movie that featured a piano and tells many interesting things about the piano. I think you will like it. It’s called: The Piano in the Forest (not exactly sure of name). There is a series that features a situation a bit like yours only that the instrument was a violin. You can easily find it on youtube and it is called: La Corda Doro.
Hope this helps!
K
hi anonymous
or should i say hi twin?
i am in the same sitch.
K,
I have my grade 3 piano lesson coming up soon, and I don’t know if I’m ready. My teacher is always giving me a ton of homework to do to help me but I cannot keep up with it, and am always having to do it at the last minute. My dad and cousin who have also finished all their grades are pressuring me to carry on. What can I do to boost my confidence in music?
why thank you dudde!
What great advice, J-Lee!
K
Great advice, K!
I also recommend telling here in a gentle way that she can’t keep crying all the time.
Good luck!!!!!
Dear Anonymous,
I know how hard this situation can be and this problem is so common that there is a name for it, it is called the “On and off again friend”. Here’s my advice:
Tell her that you still want to be friends but what’s she’s been doing has been bothering you. If she cries, say that you want to know what’s wrong so that you can be good friends. This says that “Crying won’t put this off” in a nice way. Be strong when you say this and don’t be wobbly, if you’re wobbly it’ll make her feel more powerful.
Hope it works out!
K
Im not sure what to do. My friend can be really nice at times and can make you feel really special, but then she starts being really mean when she knows shes making me feel left out. She pretends nothing is wrong but if I tell her, she will start crying and make me look bad.
What should I do?